The Ultimate Gay & Lesbian Guide to Online Dating

Rachel Brewson

Grindr launched on March, 25th 2009 and by 2012 had over 4 million users in 192 countries. Grindr paved the  way for other dating apps all around the world. A lot has changed since 2009, and we now have options for every niche and preference under the sun.


These days, you don’t have to stick to generic sites Grindr, Zoosk or, there are plenty of apps to help gay men, women and transgender people find their niche. To help you find what you’re looking for, we’ve given you a rundown of all the best gay dating apps, lesbian dating apps, and transgender dating apps out there.


Now it’s safe to say that we’ve all seen Sex and the City. If you haven’t, the E! Network plays them every weekend. But, it’s Olivia Pope from Scandal that makes us long for our very own Fitzgerald Grant—or ladies, in your case, Portia De Rossi. Face it—she’s on fire this season.


Your life may not be a TV show, but guess what? Your dating life is. Over 49,250,000 people have tried online dating in the U.S., so something must be working here. We all want that happy ending (in every sense), however there isn’t an ending without a beginning.





Gay Online Dating Guide


Gay Dating Review

Sick of just hooking up and want to meet someone you like? GayDating is the app for you; with thousands of profiles with single gay men and women waiting for you to check them out. So stop wasting time and find the perfect match today.


ManPlay Review

Manplay offers a great way to have fun; this is where men come to play and are guaranteed to meet a hot hookup. Manplay makes it easy and free to sign up; no credit card required. So search through nearby guys and find the hottie you’ve been dying to talk to.


Grindr Review

Grindr is what started it all. The app of apps, with hot young college, bi and straight guys looking to play right now; somewhere along the way it became the app for power bottoms. You heard right. You’ll come to find guys who want to PNP, Snowball or lick some feet. Grinder has its moments but has truly become a place where guys just say, “Sup.”


Scruff Review

Scruff gives you a variety of options and allows you to put yourself out there. Whether you’re looking for a hookup or just a friend, come meet bears, jocks, college guys, hot military men, chubs, rugged leather men, queer guys and a more lot more.


Hornet App Review

Meet the hot college boy next door and start having fun. Hornet lets you use hashtags to categorize profiles by keywords such as #twink #runner #bear #dl and more; it’s reasons like this that it has a have a 4.1 rating.


GROWLr Review

There’s all sizes of men and GROWLr welcomes them (and tons of bears) with is app with over 6,000,000 members and growing and winner of the 2014 Cybersocket award for “Best Hookup App” for gay men. There’s never an off season with these bears. You could search by who’s nearby or online at that moment.


ManHunt Review

With over 4 million profiles worldwide and 1 million in the United States alone, Manhunt continues to bring the hottest guys around you together: come meet horny singles just like you that are waiting to get off.


GuySpy Review

Come check out the land of wet dreams. Guy Spy is 100% free but gives you the option to upgrade for only $6.99 a month that unlocks more photos, see who’s checking you out, check out guys without leaving a trace and get VIP access to the newest guys. Review is the first LGBT social network for people of all ages to come together. You must be 12 year old or older to sign up; a great tool to help the gay community find fun and interesting local activities.


Jack'd App Review

Jack’d is a great way to meet new friends, start a relationship or just plan for a 3-way. It’s a safe and friendly app that connects you to the hottest guys and allows you to see who’s checking you out.


Planet Romeo Review

PlanetRomeo is a social network for gay, bisexual and transgender men to meet. The majority of its users come from German-speaking countries. Germany, Austria and Switzerland, but the app is now available in 20 languages to help fit everyone’s needs.


Manjam App Review

Manjam connects you to your mobile tablet and computer so you can always stay in touch wherever you go. Meet guys with similar interests and that are ready to play. Sign up and check out photos of guys that want to meet, “like” a picture and start up a chat right away.


u2nite App Review

This secure, easy and fun free app keeps you 100% anonymous. It’s simple; type in your nickname-anonymously-your age and body height-DONE! Now find a guy, set up a place to meet and get to know each other with u2nite.






Lesbian Online Dating Guide



Everyone might not be comfortable in the dating scene. PinkWink gives lesbians a change to date, love, find romance or have long-term commitment with one and another. With millions of gay women already signed up, this is your shoot to meet someone who’s compatible for you.


findhrr App Review

Findhrr is everything you will ever need for your social life; this app allows you to find restaurants, cafes, bars, clubs, hotels and local events taking place right in your city. Everything you’ll need in the palm of your hands.Come discover the girl you’ve been looking for. Findhrr is the leading lesbian app around and makes it fun to meet others lesbians like you.


Her App Review

Her is the one app that introduces you to every lesbian that you ever wanted to meet; read daily lesbian articles written by journalists and users like you, time to match up and meet the pussy cat next door.


Atraf Girls App

Atraf Girls connects you with lesbians just like you looking to meet and have fun, get to know the new girl in town or just visiting your city. All you have to do is say “Hey.”


Scissr App Review

If you’re looking for romance, a date, conversation, networking or just fun; Scissr mobile app is designed by lesbians for lesbians. Scissr is also made for all—dyke, queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and bi-curious. 


Moovz App Review

Share your life, find events, make new friends, discover interesting stories and keep up with your community; anytime, anywhere. Join the millions of other gay men, lesbian women, bisexuals and transgender individuals that are on Moovz every day.



Thurst App Review

Come meet other queer cis, trans and non-binary people like you. Thrust is free, inclusive and has everything you desire. Find people of all gender identities around you. This app is for people who are tired of sites that rely on traditional male/female binaries.


Rachel Brewson
Editor, Dating

Rachel Brewson, Dating Editor, has played matchmaker and dating coach to friends and colleagues, as well as written for xoJane, Thought Catalog and a handful of online blogs. She loves craft beer, the beach, and warm LA nights.